UNIFY TO SHUN DOWRY

One day dowry came
With a lot of blame
Cause i didn’t liked things
So my heart pinged

My wife is my dowry
And I love her as Lowry
Mom and dad don’t even think
That I love these costly things

Dowry is just an illusion
That gets everyone in confusion
Dowry is a bad word
With alot of godly curse

To the people who put pressure
U are going to get crushed in a thresher
To the people who torture
U will be hit by a scorcher

Dowry dowry just teach humans a lesson
That  you must not work like a caisson
D…..donkeys
O…..of the first order
W….who cannot withstand on their own feet
R…..rely on their wife’s riches
Y……yet shameless

Be a man not a beggar to ask dowry.

Why is the dowry system still a threatening reality? Why do we value a woman’s life around the amount of gold she brings in dowry?  Questions like these need to be raised again and again.

Taking or giving dowry has been criminalized by law. But, it is still a significant part of Indian marriage and is openly defying laws and failing women empowerment.

The brutal reality of the dowry system is not the story of rural areas only. Even the educated family sitting in metropolitan cities like Delhi and Bangalore is harassing a woman for not bringing enough gold or money.Sometimes I even hear about cases of IAS officers which is heartbreaking .

“Any young man, who makes dowry a condition to marriage, discredits his education and his country and dishonours womanhood.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Dowry system makes it necessary for a bride’s family to give dowry in cash or kind to the groom’s family as a pre-condition for marriage. After marriage, some families demand more dowry and when it is not fulfilled- either because of the inability of the bride’s family or the denial of the bride herself, the groom and his family abuse and kill the bride. In one of the cases reported in Bengaluru in January 2020, a few weeks after marriage, a husband demanded cash despite receiving 1kg gold in dowry as per his demands. When the extra demand was denied, he burnt his wife.

According to my views you have your whole life ahead of you. Be smart, Study hard and be independent.You must rely on yourself. No matter what else people may steal from you, they will never be able to take away your knowledge. The world is changing. You must make your own life outside this home.

Why The Dowry System Is Still Prevalent?

We are in 2020. Dowry system was abolished in 1961 in India. The reason for the prevalence of this custom is the patriarchal society that values men over women. In India boys have a rate card in many societies. This is the unofficial price the boy is worth. And that worth is measured by the amount of dowry a boy will get upon marriage. The stronghold of the gender inequality in Indian society makes a bride’s family feel obliged to meet the dowry demands of the man who has ‘agreed’ to take care of the daughter. The second major reason is that the dowry system is too deeply rooted in the Indian culture that it is seen as normal and unchangeable.

Even today, if people are reminded that dowry is a crime, they ignore it as an alternate reality which cannot change the age-old customs. Many educated families practice it, willingly or unwillingly, to avoid being criticized for not following the customs. After all who will dare to change the traditions? The third and most important reason is the dominance of the institution of marriage. A woman’s marriage is of the paramount importance in Indian families. If a woman’s marriage requires dowry in return of her secured married life which is a challenge in the world that is unsafe and discriminatory for women, it is never seen as a crime.

Dowry deaths are a result of this stagnancy in the traditions and cultures. Groom’s families take advantage of the stronghold of the dowry system which will ultimately bring them wealth. Often they ‘rightfully’ abandon or abuse the woman for dowry because she and her family did not fulfil their duty. This is a harsh reality that still haunts the lives of the women who are moving ahead towards a respectable, empowered and independent future. This system is the major reason why daughters are considered as a burden for the families. Consequently, families either keep the wealth aside for the daughter’s dowry rather than investing in her education or kill her before birth to get rid of the burden forever.Only our thinking can save these precious lives and bring about a major change in this world full of dowry demanding creatures.

How Young Women can Bring A Change?

Girls must understand that a marriage grounded on the exchange of dowry is only a business deal. She must believe that marriage only needs love and respect.If a boy cannot marry her without her money, he doesn’t deserve her.She is more capable to excel in her life with her own capabilities.She should convince her family to not seek dowry for her brother’s marriage.They should tell them not to seek dowry because they don’t need money to keep someone else’s girl. If the boy considers her as his another half then dowry is almost negligible in front of that.

Girls must bring a change in the prevalence of the dowry system by being self-dependent and refusing to marry anyone who needs money to marry them.

यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवताः ।
यत्रैतास्तु न पूज्यन्ते सर्वास्तत्राफलाः क्रियाः ॥ Which means -The divine are extremely happy where women are respected ;where they are not, all actions are fruitless.

Dowry system gets an open passage in the society despite being a crime because no one dares to take legal action against the families. There is a need of organizing more workshops and discussions on this issue so that its seriousness is realized.

According to recent reports on an average, every hour a woman succumbs to dowry deaths in India. No matter how many qualifications a woman earns, her identity and the right to live is decided according to the kilograms of gold, cash,luxury cars and appliances she brings in dowry for her in-laws.I don’t know why people show off something that is not even their’s in weddings.If you are reading this article and consider my views right enough, kindly share it widely so we can push for conversations that question this and helps us all change the system. It’s going change if we all stand together.

I request you all to share your views on this serious issue and suggest possible ways to eradicate this evil system from our society.

POETRY IS GOOD FOR SOUL BUT SOMETIMES ITS HARD TO CONTROL

IF YOU BREAK A POET’S HEART

HE’LL EXPRESS YOU WITH HIS ART

HE’LL DESCRIBE YOU IN WORDS

WORDS THAT WOULD SEEM LIKE BLEEDING BIRDS

FLYING FROM HIS SOUL AND LANDING ON HIS WRITING PAD

HE WRITES HIS SOUL INTO A BOOK

BUT PEOPLE REFUSE TO TURN AND LOOK

HE TURNS HIS FAITH INTO A RHYME

AND STILL PEOPLE COULD SPARE NO TIME

HEARTBROKEN POET SITS AND DREAMS

QUIETLY AND CALMLY HE PROBES HIS THEMES

You’re my favorite way to pass the time. But time stands still when you’re on my mind. Long distance relationships are hard, but they’re also incredible. If you can love, trust, respect, and support each other from a distance then you’ll be unstoppable once you’re physically together.

OUR AMAZING WORLD

This world is amazing The world that doesn’t move according to man The world that moves with time Where time doesn’t really wait for anybody And things go wrong with time But no one’s time remains the same always Your time changes with your hardwork Nothing is truly constant in life And everything does change for sure One doesn’t always remains on top Cz fall is sure if there is rise Just believe that You are strong and you are bold You may not have your say or told This world doesn’t have any doors There are only windows Through which we can peep And try to understand what’s going so deep This world ends to me every night After a day long hectic fight And begins again every morning With that bright sunlight

THE LIQUOR CORONA : RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING PANDEMIC MORE WORSE

1.Is opening liquor shops a wise decision made by the government? 2.Don’t you people feel that this was the right time to diverge Alcoholic minds to a right path by banning Liquor shops? 3.Do you think that drinking excessive alcohol can save you? 4.Don’t you think that instead of opening liquor shops government should have given orders to open Gyms ?

Alcohol shops across States began opening their shutters from May 4 after the easing of India’s COVID-19 lockdown. Serpentine queues marked the reopening of liquor vending outlets.

Wearing of masks was made mandatory to line up at the outlets. But COVID-19 safety protocols like physical distancing and the wearing of masks were thrown to the wind.

Protests were held in several places against the reopening of liquor outlets.

Alcohol’s impact on your body starts from the moment you take your first sip. While an occasional glass of wine with dinner isn’t a cause for concern, the cumulative effects of drinking wine, beer, or spirits can take its toll.

A glass a day may do little damage to your overall health. But if the habit grows or if you find yourself having a hard time stopping after just one glass, the cumulative effects can add up.

How Alcohol affects Sugar levels in our body?

As we know that Covid 19 is grabbing people who already are suffering from deadly diseases and so is with the diabetic people.The pancreas helps regulate your body’s insulin use and response to glucose. When your pancreas and liver aren’t functioning properly, you run the risk of experiencing low blood sugar. A damaged pancreas may also prevent the body from producing enough insulin to utilize sugar. This can lead too much sugar in the blood.And further can lead to other deadly diseases such as COVID-19 presently.

If your body can’t manage and balance your blood sugar levels, you may experience greater complications and side effects related to diabetes. It’s important for people with diabetes or hypoglycemia to avoid alcohal at any cost.If ever they feel like drinking they can have a very small amount of Red wine.

COVID 19##Immune system##ALCOHAL

To fight COVID 19 we need a strong immune system but do you know that drinking heavily reduces your body’s natural immune system. This makes it more difficult for your body to fight off invading germs and viruses such as COVID-19.

People who drink heavily over a long period of time are also more likely to develop pneumonia and tuberculosis than the general population. About 10 percent of all tuberculosis cases worldwide can be tied to alcohol consumption. Drinking alcohol also increases your risk for several types of cancer, including mouth, breast, and colon.

From the above two paragraphs you can easily conclude that how bad is alcohal for you and how badly it can effect you.Government will never ever help you with anything if something bad happens to you or to your family members.They are just to here to dupe people of their hard earned money weather it is done by Opening liquor shops during Lockdown or by supplying Liquor during voting Campaigns. We are the people who suffer.If liquor shops were opened why are Gyms still closed?Government must promote physical exercise and let people open their Gyms.They must promote cycling too and if possible,only cycles must be allowed within the cities.This will help people of our country to stay fit and will help to heal mother earth.

A BIOLOGICAL WEAPON:COVID-19

Biological weapons are microorganisms like virus, bacteria, fungi, or other toxins that are produced and released deliberately to cause disease and death in humans, animals or plants. 

Biological agents, like anthrax, botulinum toxin and plague can pose a difficult public health challenge causing large numbers of deaths in a short amount of time while being difficult to contain. Bioterrorism attacks could also result in an epidemic, for example if Ebola or Lassa viruses were used as the biological agents. 

Biological weapons is a subset of a larger class of weapons referred to as weapons of mass destruction, which also includes chemical, nuclear and radiological weapons. The use of biological agents is a serious problem, and the risk of using these agents in a bioterrorist attack is increasing

The novel coronavirus outbreak in 2019-2020 with nickname Covid-19 is a new strain of viruses which can cause fever, cough, breathing difficulties, pneumonia and even death in humans.To my notions it’s a kind of biological weapon which was used by a country for their own benefit.

The new coronavirus – Covid-19 – was first identified in Wuhan, China in December 2019. News reports say Wei Guixian was selling shrimp at the Huanan Seafood Market when she developed what she thought was a cold last DecemberWuhan Municipal Health Commission has confirmed that Wei was among the first 27 people to test positive for the coronavirus.The global outbreak of Covid-19 is still ongoing. The novel Coronavirus has affected more than 722087 people all over the world and has resulted in more than 33975 deaths.

The World Health Organization (WHO) has declared the coronavirus outbreak 2019–20 a Public Health Emergency of International Concern (PHEIC) initially, and later declared it as a pandemic.

Coronaviruses belong to a family of viruses called Coronaviridae and order Nidovirales. Coronaviruses get their name from their crown-like shape.

They are found in animals and birds and are zoonotic – as they are transmitted between animals and people.

Some types of coronavirus are dangerous for humans and result in severe diseases such as respiratory syndromes (MERS – Middle East Respiratory Syndrome and SARS – Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome).

Coronavirus disease 2019 is an infectious disease caused by Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome Coronavirus 2 (SARS-CoV-2), a virus closely related to the SARS virus.

The 2019-nCov has been given the official name as COVID-19.

WHO declared Covid-19 infections as a public health emergency of international concern and later called it a pandemic.

Though the novel coronavirus is highly infectious and spreads rapidly, the death rate is low – only about 3.7%.

However, because of the possibility of a global-scale infection, all possible steps should be taken to prevent the fast spreading of the outbreak. Most people recover from the Covid-19 infection within 28 days, when proper supportive care is given.

Origin and TransmissionCoronaviruses originate in animals like camels and bats and are zoonotic diseases as it passes from animals to humans occasionally.

The source of a zoonotic disease is called reservoir species. (For SARS, the reservoir species was identified as bats).

The first known case of COVID-19 was reported in the Chinese city of Wuhan in December 2019 and was traced to an animal market in the city.

Research is ongoing on how COVID-19 spreads. However, as per WHO, the disease spreads in humans via exposure to respiratory secretions – the small droplets from the nose or mouth of an infected person – either directly or indirectly.

Compared to earlier outbreaks of SARS and MERS, COVID-19 has a greater global spread and researchers think that mutation in the virus strain is enabling it to be more efficiently transmitted.

Most people infected with the COVID-19 virus will experience mild to moderate respiratory illness and recover without requiring special treatment.  Older people, and those with underlying medical problems like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, chronic respiratory disease, and cancer are more likely to develop serious illness.

The best way to prevent and slow down transmission is be well informed about the COVID-19 virus, the disease it causes and how it spreads. Protect yourself and others from infection by washing your hands or using an alcohol based rub frequently and not touching your face. 

The COVID-19 virus spreads primarily through droplets of saliva or discharge from the nose when an infected person coughs or sneezes, so it’s important that you also practice respiratory etiquette .

Wash your hands frequently

Regularly and thoroughly clean your hands with an alcohol-based hand rub or wash them with soap and water.

Why? Washing your hands with soap and water or using alcohol-based hand rub kills viruses that may be on your hands.

Maintain social distancing

Maintain at least 1 metre (3 feet) distance between yourself and anyone who is coughing or sneezing.

Why? When someone coughs or sneezes they spray small liquid droplets from their nose or mouth which may contain virus. If you are too close, you can breathe in the droplets, including the COVID-19 virus if the person coughing has the disease.

Stay at home if you begin to feel unwell, even with mild symptoms such as headache and slight runny nose, until you recover.  Why? Avoiding contact with others and visits to medical facilities will allow these facilities to operate more effectively and help protect you and others from possible COVID-19 and other viruses.If you develop fever, cough and difficulty breathing, seek medical advice promptly as this may be due to a respiratory infection or other serious condition. Call in advance and tell your provider of any recent travel or contact with travelers.  Why? Calling in advance will allow your health care provider to quickly direct you to the right health facility. This will also help to prevent possible spread of COVID-19 and other viruses.

PREFER NAMASTE INSTEAD OF HANDSHAKE. HELP PEOPLE AND BE HUMANE.

Happy international women empowerment day

India is even known for its sobriquet male-chauvinistic nation.Women are the companion of man,gifted with equal mental capabilities.She has the right to participate in every minute detail of activities of man and she has an equal right of freedom and liberty with him.She is entitled to a supreme place in her own sphere of activity as men is in his.The Constitution of India ensures a place of dignity and honour for all women.

It’s ‘Bharat Maata’ who is inturn a woman that serves as the mother of every Indian. While such a woman looks after every Indian child, women in general are simply being disregarded at the dominant men’s best. Men ought not to forget the fact that ‘men’ are in ‘WOmen’. Women are no less than men in India in any sector. Women are not what they really were. Some decades ago, women were limited to the kitchen.Women in the past used to be just an object to live within the walls of the houses.She used to be illiterate and was involved only in cooking and washing works of the house..Infact she didn’t get a good treatment from her male counterpart.

Today, Indian women have made their presence felt virtually in every field. Women have ultimately come out of their ‘saree’ image and entrap the nation by dint of their hardwork and power. Women Empowerment is infact the ability of women to exercise full control over one’s actions.

Empowerment of women in India is conspicuous by many live examples. But, is that all? Are only those women empowered? If not, how about rest of the Indian-women world? Are the common women vested with powers to drive the nation? These above questions, if posed to our so called leaders, would simply be parried. Women have become marionettes in the hands of them.

The ability of a woman to break the barriers and tread on a new path was proved by women.People usually get carried by the myth that men can do far better than women. Indian women dispelled the myth by making their footprints in almost every field of work.A woman Defence Minister is one of the biggest signs of women empowerment in any country and Nirmala Sitharaman was one such example.Now she is an Indian politician serving as the current Minister of Finance and Corporate Affairs of India. She is a member of the Rajya Sabha, upper house of the Indian Parliament, since 2014.

Women are not only law-makers and law-controllers, but also Business magnates.Kiren Mazumdar Shaw is one of the richest and popular self-made business women, she says she became an entrepreneur by accident as she never aspired to start a business. Creating a biopharmaceutical company called Bicon in 1978, she has managed to make it one of the leaders in manufacturing a wide range of drugs.

Women have the inherent potential to overlook any impediments, to commit themselves to their ambitions and eventually drive the nation by fulfilling them. The real empowerment is attained only when they are wise-enough and highly-powered to make decisions and women, when authoritative, would turn into economic carriers of India.

Gender equality plays a crucial role in uplifting women. Rather, gender inequality certainly needs to be abolished. Gender-based discrimination and disparity are evident from various dowry cases and sexual harassment incidents. The idea of equal employment opportunities is still lingering unimplemented in several remote areas. Women in some inaccessible areas are yet confined to their household routines while their spouses go for work.

Government should open its doors for women to be given opportunities to prove themselves on a par with the men.

A blessing in disguise’ seems to justify the women empowerment in India. Although women are brought up by themselves to the top-notch position, some miscellaneous factors clampdown on them. Top brass officials politicise things and it’s ultimately women who become victims which lead to their resignation or stall of activities being carried out by them. Drearily, sometimes it might even result in suicides. Sexual harassment is one of the horrendous factors that suppresses women.

Rape is a heinous crime that government needs to tackle to ensure women empowerment. Hardly a day passes without a case of rape being reported in Indian newspapers and media. Welfare of women is the foremost thing that government must lay an emphasis on.

Women empowerment can be achieved chiefly through Health and Education. “Health is Wealth”. Basic sanitation facilities, adequate medical camps, government health schemes would be conducive to bring about a major change. The female literacy rate has also increased . Enrolment of girls in schools makes a huge difference in transforming the nation.

Women are no less than outstanding, be it in business, politics, entertainment, sports or whatever. They must be provided with ardent invigoration and their spirits must be kept high to delete the term ‘impossible’ from the dictionary. Like sarojini naidu, Jhansi lakshmi bhai and Indira Gandhi who exemplified women empowerment with their deeds, let us expect many more epitomes of such personality traits.

With the process of industrialisation, globalisation and modernization showing its deep import on the human society all over the world,the role and responsibility of women has attained a new dimension.The educational and occupational patterns have also changed and widened with women entering the domains,which till decade back was considered to be dominated by men.Unless women throw off shackles which ignore their talent,their skill and their spirit,women cannot be empowered.And unless they are empowered to take a decisive part in the social political and economic life of the country,the very development of the country may be adversely affected.

PERMANENT COMMISSION to women,a great leap towards equality in army.

India an aspiring global power cannot be discredited with gender disparity. Earlier the government denied the proposal for granting Permanent commission merely on the basis that they are women.Other reasons being:1.women not fit to serve in ground combat roles 2.Motherhood,childcare have a bearing on employment of women officer in army 3.deployment of women officers was not advisable in conflict zone where there was minimal facility for habitat and hygiene.

Because the above arguments doesn’t hold water,supreme court observed: 1. 30 percent of women officers in conflict areas 2. Past records have revealed that IAF has allowed women to become fighter pilots. 3. Women officers are already commanding platoons with male soldiers accepting orders from them as part of professional forces. It means that women officer are eligible to tenant all command appointments which would open avenues for further promotion to higher rank.Countries like China,US and Israel with powerful militaries have been deploying women with their male counterparts for security of nation.

More importantly in furthering the principle of equality and non discrimination enshrined in the constitution the court has at the same time come down heavily on stereotypes of women and their physiological features. About women officers in command posts, the court has made it clear that there cannot be an absolute exclusion of women officers.

On Permanent Commission for the women officers, a bench headed by Justice DY Chandrachud has observed that there is no ground to deny women officers a permanent commission even if they have completed 14 years rules.

Directing the Centre to implement the Supreme Court Order in the next three months, it has said clearly that the PC be given to all women who have opted for it and to The court directed the Centre to grant permanent commission to all women officers who opt for it. And has also directed that the women officers shall also be eligible for command posting in the Army.

Justice Chandrachud also cited examples of leading women officers Captain Tanya Shergill and Captain Madhumita and has noted women officers as convoy commanders in Leh, Udhamnagar etc.

According to the order, the new policy will also benefit all Short Service Commission women officers.SSC women officers with less than 14 years, as well as beyond 14 years of service will be granted PC.

TEENAGERS AND LOVE

Love teaches us self-respect as well as respect for others. Love is one of the most fulfilling things we can have in our lives.Loving and being loved integrates richness to our lives.Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure.But each kind of love has its own distinctive feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence.

In our teens, relationships are mostly about having fun. Dating can seem like a great way to have someone to go places with and do things with. Dating can also be a way to fit in. If our friends are all dating someone, we might put pressure on ourselves to find a boyfriend or girlfriend too.

In our late teens, though, relationships are less about going out to have fun and fitting in. Closeness, sharing, and confiding become more important to both guys and girls. By the time they reach their twenties, most girls and guys value support, closeness, and communication, as well as passion. This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run — a love that will last.

Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these feelings, they’re still there. It’s a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be exciting or even confusing at first. Attraction is the “chemistry” part of love. It’s all about the physical — even sexual — interest that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what’s behind the flushed, nervous-but-excited way we feel when that person is near. Closeness is the bond that develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don’t share with anyone else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you are. Trust is a big part of this. Commitment is the promise or decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the relationship.

Teenagers are highly emotional creatures to begin with but when hormones swirl it can be confusing to really understand what they are feeling.

We can help our teens give appropriate names to their emotions by teaching them the difference between love, lust, and infatuation. Falling in love is an emotional upheaval at any age, but for adolescents the feelings are likely to be even more difficult to manage.

Teenage bodies and brains are maturing at a rate not experienced since infancy.The adolescent brain matures more quickly than others, leading to potential mismatches between physical, emotional development.

Hormonal changes, triggered by brain and body developments, are strongly implicated in the intense feelings of sexual attraction and falling in love.

Testosterone and oestrogen – male and female sex hormones – are associated with heightened sexual urges, while the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin are implicated in attachment and bonding. During puberty, the volume of these circulating sex hormones in the body rises dramatically. In girls, the ovaries increase their production of oestrogen sixfold and in boys, the testes produce 20 times the amount of testosterone.

Both sexes have male and female hormones circulating in the bloodstream, but during adolescence a boy’s testosterone level becomes 20 to 60 per cent higher than that of a girl, while her oestrogen level becomes 20 to 30 per cent higher than his. These hormones have strong effects on mood and libido.

Young people are hormonally primed toward being sexually attracted to others but, especially in early adolescence, they are not used to the feelings associated with the rapid increases and fluctuations in their hormone levels. High concentrations of certain hormones for one’s age, or rapid fluctuations of hormone levels may trigger more negative moods and greater mood variability Emotions associated with being ‘in love’ or ‘in lust’ are likely to be confused and confusing, even overwhelming for some.

Falling in love takes some getting used to, all those different emotions, mood swings, needs and desires. Nevertheless, through their romantic relationships, adolescents have the potential for psychological growth as they learn about themselves and other people, gain experience in how to manage these feelings and develop the skills of intimacy. They also face new risks and challenges.

On the downside, romantic relationships can sometimes lead to unhealthy outcomes. Young people can become too exclusive when they pair up, cutting themselves off from friendship and support networks in ways that do not advance optimal development.

Adolescents can be exposed to abusive and violent interactions or unwanted or coerced sexual activity within their romantic relationships.These days, aggression and bullying also occur online,partners share private photos or information on social media, causing embarrassment, humiliation or worse to the victim. 

When a relationship ends, people really need support. Losing a first love isn’t something we’ve been emotionally prepared to cope with. It can help to have close friends and family members to lean on. Unfortunately, lots of people often adults expect younger people to bounce back and just get over it.

If your heart is broken, find someone you can talk to who really understands the pain you’re going through.Break-ups are a very common feature of adolescent romantic relationships, some of which last only a few weeks. The impact of splitting up may not be particularly severe or long-lasting, especially in the case of short-term liaisons. Nevertheless, some teenagers are more vulnerable than others and their impact can vary from person to person.

Losing love can be painful for anyone. But if it’s your first real love and the relationship ends before you want it to, feelings of loss can seem overwhelming. Like the feelings of passion early in the relationship, the newness and rawness of grief and loss can be intense and devastating.

Young people move on when their relationships are not fulfilling.Over time, and through talking with others, including parents, peers and partners, adolescents can develop cognitive frameworks for better understanding the nature of intimate relationships and learn to cope with their ups and downs.

Love is delicate. It needs to be cared for and nurtured if it is to last through time. Just like friendships, relationships can fail if they are not given enough time and attention. This is one reason why some couples might not last — perhaps someone is so busy with school, extracurriculars, and work that he or she has less time for a relationship. Or maybe a relationship ends when people graduate and go to separate colleges or take different career paths. For some teens, a couple may grow apart because the things that are important to them change as they mature. Or maybe each person wants different things out of the relationship. Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not.

With age and maturity come more realistic expectations and, hopefully, stronger capacities to make discerning partner choices, communicate and negotiate with partners and recover from relationship set backs and break ups.

Early sex education, mechanics of sex and teaching mutual respect, decision-making and the meaning of consent helps young people to resist relationship bullying and sexual coercion.

In today’s world, cyber safety is a key issue for all of us, but especially young people. Parental monitoring of online activity, especially among children and younger teenagers, may be advisable, and this requires that parents too become educated in new media. While adolescents need their privacy, it is important for parents to be watchful for warning signs of obsessive and secretive internet use. The emotions of falling in love can lead teenagers into unwise activity. The problem with the internet is that sexts and social media posts can come back to haunt them well after a relationship is over.

Watchful, kindly and respectful parenting, strong friendship networks and relationship-oriented sex education can all play their part in helping adolescents enjoy their romantic adventures and learn from them.

AN INTELLIGENT, A WEALTHY OR A BEAUTIFUL WIFE ?

We humans are prone to beautiful things in our daily life.We keep the rarest and the most beautiful birds in our canary.We choose the most beautiful dogs or cats or other animals as our pets.We buy attractive clothes.We build beautiful houses.But when it comes to our life companion one must consider other things too. A beautiful wife is a temporary focus of people’s attention and it is not safe to depend upon it as a guiding factor for choosing your life partner completely.

An educated and intelligent wife possess a light which can never be put out.Intelligence is an invaluable possession and is much better than wealth or beauty. It is immortal and is passed from one generation to another.

A wife has to be a mother .An educated mother is the best and most effective teacher.Therefore she is an asset not only to herself or to her husband but to the family and nation too.

A wealthy wife can at most be useful to her husband but not of any service to the nation,whereas an educated wife will leave behind the best legacy, a well educated family.Do not let the case of a couple of men who won fame through the wealth and influence of their wives ,lure you.The private life of these men cannot have been happy.Wealth can only be accumulated only by intelligence and hard work.

Marriage is a sacred bond which cannot be confused with lust.Physical enjoyment is not the only thing essential for successful marriage. One needs a companion with whome he can share his weals and woes,to make family life happy and successful. For that ,harmony of ideas is more essential so only an intelligent wife can know the like and dislikes of her husband. She can use her intelligence to solve problems of life in critical situations.

Our history depicts that beauty has been the cause of so many battles.Ravana had to loose his life as well as his kingdom for his infatuation for Sita.

According to my notions ,we should choose an intelligent woman for a wife.Marriage was introduced for setting up a new family for which a happy home is essential and for happiness one requires intelligence.Now days struggle for living is becoming hard but if your wife is intelligent and educated she can take up a job and help you in supplementing the family income.An intelligent wife can also help you in your profession, may it be of business, teaching by her intuitive advice.Intelligence along with education is what I would prefer while choosing my life partner.

INTELLIGENCE IS A VIRTUE WHICH NO THIEF CAN STEAL. INTELLIGENCE IS IMMORTAL